Chill

     “A critical step in the embrace of silence and solitude is setting aside the notion that we have to be “doing something” throughout our waking hours. For most of us, this goes against what we have been taught since childhood: that being active and productive is the best way to proceed. Many factors feed into this, including the strong work ethic that has shaped American culture. Everywhere we turn, there is ample praise and support for the individual who strives to “get ahead.” When we are idle, by definition, we are not striving and therefore going against the grain of social imperatives.”

     When researching elements of the spiritual life, one need not look far to find evidence of the importance of silence and solitude, the essential duet of the soul. Author Richard Mahler is accurate in stating how countercultural these are in our busy-is-best way of living, and in claiming that for many of us our self worth is measured by productivity.  I will not waste your time or mine by writing in support of these universally accepted truths, but what I would like to posit is that striving to “get ahead” in the arena of the soul can be counter- productive.

     Many of us who desire to grow spiritually are prone to an effortful approach to becoming better at being spiritual! We work hard at being without distractions in silent meditation, and more comfortable spending time alone. We read books, listen to podcasts, go on retreats, and engage in other practices in an attempt to arrive at the top of our spiritual game. It is surely important to put energy into attaining our goals, spiritual and otherwise, but there is something to be said for a more chill approach when it comes to our soul.

     What I have discovered by having fallen prey to spiritual striving, is that doing so only serves to make me self-conscious, and keeps me from experiencing the already present Presence of that which I seek. The silent and solitary soul, the interior place of the divine, is already the deepest dimension of us; we need only yield to it, rest in it, and meet the world of relationships from it.

    Making time for silence and solitude in the midst of our often frenetic lives requires intentionality, but even in the noisy crowdedness of our days there is a quiet, solitary center in which we can find respite and renewal.